Etiquette Essentials: How to Behave in a Swingers Club

Venturing into the world of swinging could be an exciting endeavour, but it can also be daunting. Understanding the etiquette and rules of a swingers club is essential to having a positive experience. Here’s a comprehensive guide for visiting a swingers club.

Dress Code

Swingers clubs often have a dress code to maintain a certain atmosphere. It’s best to opt for smart casual attire. Wear something comfortable yet stylish, such as a well-fitted shirt, trousers, and clean shoes. Avoid wearing overly casual clothing like shorts, flip-flops, or baseball caps. Some clubs may host themed nights, so make sure to check their calendar and dress accordingly.

Approaching Other Swingers

Approach other swingers with politeness and respect. Start with a friendly conversation, compliment them genuinely, and express your interest respectfully. If they seem interested, you can take the conversation further. Remember, no means no. If they decline, respect their decision without arguing or pressuring them.

Interacting with others is key. Don’t be the single guy who wanders the club without talking to anyone, and then expects to get intimate when things start happening in an open room. Be brave, talk to people, socialize. Remember, swinging clubs are not just about intimacy; they’re also about meeting new people and socializing in a safe environment.

Defining clear boundaries with your potential partners is key to ensuring everyone has a good time. Ask what they like, dislike, or want to try. If something isn’t on their approved list, don’t do it. Always make sure that everyone involved is comfortable with any new activity before proceeding.

Rules of Conduct


Respect Boundaries: Always ensure that you respect the boundaries of others. Consent is paramount in a swingers club. Never assume that anything is allowed without explicit permission.

Communicate Clearly: Be open about your preferences, limits, and expectations. Clear communication prevents misunderstandings and ensures everyone has a good time.

Follow Club Rules: Each club has its own set of rules. Familiarize yourself with them and follow them to the letter.

Maintain Good Hygiene: Ensure your hygiene is top-notch. Make sure you wash before and after any activities. Most clubs have showers for this exact reason.

Respect Closed Doors: If you see a closed door while exploring the club, leave it be. A closed door typically means the occupants want privacy. An open door may be an invitation to join or watch but always ask for permission first.

Safe Sex: If you’re going to be intimate with new people, ask them if they play safe. If they do, always use protection regardless of personal preferences. This helps keep everyone safe and ensures the fun can continue. Some clubs provide condoms, but it’s always good to bring your own.


Don’t Be Pushy: If someone declines your advances, accept their decision gracefully. Persistence after refusal is considered disrespectful.

Don’t Get Too Drunk: While a little Dutch courage might help you relax, getting overly intoxicated can lead to poor judgment and inappropriate behaviour. Remember that others might perceive you differently when you’re under the influence. It’s also important to remember all the lovely people you meet, so sometimes less is more.

No Touching Without Consent: In a swingers club, consent is paramount. Never touch anyone without explicit permission. Even if someone seems to be engaging in inviting behaviour right next to you, always ask before joining them. Respect everyone’s personal space and remember that just because you’re in a club, real-world rules and norms still apply.

Finally, respect is key. Treat everyone with kindness and understanding, and you’ll likely have a positive experience. Remember, swinging is all about mutual enjoyment and consent. So, be respectful, open-minded, and most importantly, enjoy the experience! Now, go to the club, have a great time, and always help others who are new to the scene too!

We hope these tips provide a helpful starting point for understanding the do’s and don’ts of swingers club etiquette. But, we’d love to hear from you. What do you think about these guidelines? Would you add anything else to this list? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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